As I begin to write this blog, I am not sure how I am going to say it, but I know the point I want to make, so if it is a bit hit and miss, atleast you can take away the main point and ponder it and see if it is applicable to you.
Last week I took a break and headed up to QLD to relax and as usual, when I am away from work and I have a few minutes to myself, I usually observe all the people around me. It got me thinking about something and everywhere I looked, I had my theory cemented.
“Everybody can change their life with just a few changes of thinking and a few changes of action.”
I see so many people who’s life is heading in one direction and you just know that they are not happy, but maybe they just don’t know how to change it.
I also know so many people who have been on that unhappy road and they have made changes and their life has changed for the better.
I am not just talking about being overweight, but this would be the main one that comes to mind due to my occupation. I am also talking about being in bad relationships or bad jobs, having bad habits, having no hobbies or interests etc etc, anything that is bringing you down.
When I was away, I got up early each morning and did a workout down by the beach. I did this because I enjoy it and rarely get the luxury of exercising in the early morning when I am working. When I got in the lift each day to head out, there was usually at least 1 person in the lift and believe it or not, they were usually overweight. But not just overweight, they looked generally miserable. They also looked somewhat embarrassed when Hannah I got into the lift.
Now maybe they feel stuck. Staying the same is easy, but it is sucking the life out of them. Making a change is hard, often very hard, but the rewards can be huge.
I also went to a water park and as you know, there is no easy way to cover up there. But what I found was that so many people were embarrassed by their own skin, that they would wear a shirt or even more clothes than just a shirt over the top of their swimmers.
Again, I am sure these people feel stuck. I mean honestly, who is happy and comfortable being overweight, feeling sluggish and embarrassed by their own skin?
I just want to say that it is never too late to make a change. Sometimes making the smallest change can have a domino effect and you will make another change without even thinking about it and then another and yet another until 12 months later, you stop and think and realise that you are not the same person you were. Things in your life are better. Things are more enjoyable etc etc.
I am not saying being thinner is the be all and end all, even though it may lengthen your life and improve your quality of life whilst you are here, but what I am saying is that making one change, usually leads to another.
I’d like to give you some examples. Totally random of course
You’re stuck in a job you hate which doesn’t allow any time for the gym or to eat correctly and you’re in a relationship that is just not right and you’re hanging out because you are comfortable, even though you are unhappy. So one day, you say thats it, I’m done. You quit your job and start looking for a new one that is in a new industry. Something that will bring a spark back to your life. Something you are passionate about. You end your relationship. Let’s face it, it wasn’t going anywhere anyway. You were only hanging out until something better came along, but with the state of mind you were in, nothing better was ever going to come along. You get right into your fitness and eat healthily. All of a sudden you have less burdens. You may be lonely for a while, but now that you are a happier person, working in an industry you enjoy, looking better than ever because you are so fit and healthy and then you find a person who is equally fit and healthy and happy. You are now in a happy relationship because you feel good about your self. 2 years later, you can’t even remember that person who was unhappy in both work, relationship & life and unhealthy and embarrassed to look in the mirror. But, had you not made those couple of changes, 2 years later you could be even deeper stuck in the unhappiness… you would be a totally different person…
Maybe you’ve been overweight and unfit for as long as you can remember. Everyone around you is unfit, so why change. But then one day, you say enough is enough. It may be hard and you are going to make a change. You start exercising regularly. You start eating healthy. The weight falls off. You gain self confidence. You start to help others around you because you realise it was not as hard as you had once thought. You want others to know it is just a few small changes and the domino’s roll. Does losing the weight along make you more confident? The answer is probably YES, but let’s just say no for the sake of argument. So what does make you more confident? Could it be that you now have gym buddies? You’re stronger? You have a hobby? Your social circle has expanded? You can now take up other hobbies because you feel able to do it, where once you felt physically inadequate. How about this…Now that you are happier with your own skin, even though you were in what you thought was a good relationship already, you and your partner are now happier than ever! If you love yourself more, you can love others more too! You don’t always need a new relationship, you may just need to be a happier person to be a better partner!
Does any part of either of those examples sound familiar? I have loads more stories, but I think you get it.
On my way home in the car, I heard a segment on the radio about how much weight you have lost when your partner dumped you. Most of the callers were female whose partners had cheated on them and they all had lost anywhere from 15 to 40kg’s and they all said how amazing they felt and how they rubbed it into their partners faces whenever they saw them. they made comments like now he realises what he lost. My immediate thoughts were “why didn’t you lose the weight when you were together so that he was still physically attracted to you and didn’t even consider cheating on you?” ”Why is it better to rub it into his face that you have lost weight now that you have broken up instead trying to look after yourself while you were together?
During this same segment, a guy rang up who had been dumped when he was 19 years old. After the breakup, he lost 40kg’s. He said it was a turning point in his life and he was so grateful that she dumped him. He said he is a totally different person now. I want to imagine where he might be if she hadn’t dumped him, because at 19, weighing 117kg’s is not good and I am sure he had some pretty bad habits that may or may not have led to an unhealthy and unhappy adult. In this case, it is the may not! Awesome!
I got told today of a very successful businessman who constantly ate business lunches and dinners always containing alcohol. He recently had a little change of heart and decide he needed to lose weight. By changing what he eats on the business lunches and dinners and by cutting alcohol out of his diet and exercising regularly, he has lost 40kg’s. Do you think he might inspire others around him to do the same. It’s not rocket science!
I saw a guy on the news the other night who was a former skinhead. He had tattoos all over his face. He has recently had a change of heart and is no longer a racist and had decided to have all of the tattoos removed form his face. $35,000 later, he looks like a new man. Could his life have become any different? All he did was change his way of thinking!
So if you are unhappy, for any reason, it is never too hard to make a change, and remember, once you make one change, other things will start to happen! No one needs to be unhappy. Life is short, you better make the most of it. Sooner rather than later!
So many of my clients have made changes in their health and fitness and in turn they have changed many other parts of their personalities and their lives so please help someone else out and let them know it is never too late to make a change!
And please be honest. It is very easy to pretend to be happy with what you have got because it may seem difficult to change, but you can only lie to yourself for so long before the truth needs to come out.